By Crystal Lindell

I started having chronic pain at 29 years old, and the speed at which it upended my life left me with what felt like body-wide whiplash. 

I developed intercostal neuralgia seemingly overnight, which resulted in daily chronic pain in my ribs. 

At the time, I was working two jobs, maintaining an over-active social life, and living on almost no sleep. It’s a lifestyle I tried to maintain well after my body was telling me to stop.  

My mindset had not caught up with the new reality of my body yet, and I paid the price: I kept ending up in either the emergency room or immediate care. My body now had limits, and I was doing my best to ignore them. 

Because the pain was so severe and made me feel so hopeless, around this time I also asked my primary care doctor for a referral to a psychologist. The pain was making me suicidal. I needed help. 

In one of the best gifts of fate, the psychologist I was paired with had a lot of experience in helping people navigate chronic illness. She very likely saved my life. 

The first appointment I went to, I spent the entire hour sobbing about my new reality. 

Eventually, after we started meeting every other week, I came out of the fog, and her advice and guidance were what helped me finally start to see clearly. 

While I’m grateful for her tips about things like keeping a daily gratitude journal, and techniques she shared about how to communicate to my boss and my loved ones about my limitations, there was one piece of advice that helped the most. 

My therapist taught me about activity pacing. 

It sounds so obvious now that I understand the concept, but after living the first 29 years of my life at full speed and only sleeping when I physically could not stay awake a second longer -- pacing was revolutionary for me. 

The Basics of Pacing

In short, pacing is basically approaching activity levels in a more intentional way -- not doing too much and not doing too little. It also means that you don’t wait to rest until you need to. Instead, you rest proactively. 

So, rather than staying awake for 24 hours straight trying to get everything done for my two jobs, I started to stay awake for a more manageable 14 hours and then sleep for 9 hours. After waking up, I learned to slowly ease myself back into activities. 

Because I grew up in a culture where I was constantly told that working well past my limits made me a better person, pacing felt almost illegal. Until my therapist explained it to me, it had literally never occurred to me before that I could rest proactively.  

Making sure I was getting enough sleep made a drastic difference in the severity of my physical pain, and it also helped give me mental clarity for dealing with the shock and challenges of my new body. 

However, it did take me a couple years to fully understand the foundational principle of pacing: It’s not just doing too much that’s a problem, it’s also doing too little. 

Yes, therapy helped me to stop pushing myself beyond my limit, but for about a year after that, I went to the other extreme. I was so scared of aggravating my pain, that I spent every day in the house, doing work from home, and then sleeping – with little else mixed in. 

Around this time I found out that my vitamin D levels were dangerously low – the lowest my doctor had ever seen in a patient. I think it was because I was getting almost no exposure to sunlight for days on end. 

So that is what spurred me to learn that balance goes both ways. I started to understand the importance of doing some activities sometimes, and resting other times, without eliminating either one.

Pacing has become the foundation of my life these days, more than 10 years after I first started having daily chronic pain. It’s a huge factor in keeping me both physically and mentally healthy. 

You don’t have to just take my word for all this though. A small 2021 study showed how helpful pacing can be. 

According to a “Very Well Health” article about the study, the researchers taught participants – who all had chronic health issues – the basics of pacing.

The pacing framework included:

• Recognizing current unhelpful behaviors

• Finding baselines

• Practicing self-compassion

• Being flexible

• Gradually progressing activities

The study found that the pacing results happened fast. Some of the patients who attended a rehabilitation center for issues related to chronic pain and fatigue experienced the benefits of pacing after just two sessions. 

The study also included quotes from the participants talking about how it impacted them. 

“Before going to the programme I was just stuck in a situation where I'd do what work I could when I could…and then suffered for it; and I didn't really think about it the same way as when it's explained to you,” one patient said. “So, whereas I thought I was pacing myself naturally, in a sense I wasn't.”

Indeed, that’s the magic of good therapy. It gives you a new perspective, and if you’re really lucky, it gives you tools that help you live a better life. 

I’m not here to tell you that pacing in our society is easy.. As I’ve said, it took me years to truly implement it into my life. And I still struggle with days when I over do it, or even rest too much. 

Overall though, as a foundational principal, pacing is the most important thing I do to manage my chronic pain. And I think if you try it too, you’ll find out first-hand just how helpful it can be.